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line. See it from a different perspective, remembering the
spot where you were. Gently float backwards over it while looking
down and seeing recent experiences go by. Accelerate as you go
further back to times when your significant memories are spaced
further apart, all the way back to beginning of line.
Now land at the spot where it begins. Perhaps you even see the
lines of your mother and father crossing your line. Take one step back
to just before the very start of your line. Now imagine an eternal
source of love as a glowing golden light floating in through top of our
head, through your heart, and out your chest onto the beginning of
your timeline. As it starts pouring out, it starts to light up your
timeline.
Light it up a little at first and make your timeline glow brighter as
light continues to flow. It’s lighting up the line further and further out.
You might see dark spots that represent trauma, things that happened
when you were younger but as more light pours the more you relaxed
you become and the more those dark spots lighten up. You might
start to feel better as light lightens up the line.
Think that energy and float up over your timeline. Notice how the
dark spots are brighter and you might have a brighter feeling about
them, you might float forward to now and see dark spots reframed in a
different way as learning experiences. With a relaxing breath you
come back to now and open your eyes.
Do whatever you want inside your own personal time and space,
and use this exercise to heal and recharge yourself. Though the
effects may fade a little days later, each time you do it they can
become a little more permanent and even the blackest spots can be
lightened with enough healing energy.

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Exercise #4: “I Like Myself”
This exercise may sound foolish, but it’s an easy way to give your
positive energy a boost. Say “I like myself” 10 times, even if you need
to say it through gritted teeth.
It seems fruit-cakeish but you’ve just got to utter this sentence like
you mean it. If you don’t, then do something so that you do. Say it
like you mean it and actually LIKE yourself while you do it. You must
convince yourself that you do.
One of the most powerful anchors to failure is lack of self-esteem
and the associated negative outlook. You must give yourself
permission and feel that you deserve success.
5. Common Pitfalls
Once you’ve committed to changing, there are a number of
negative habits and excuses we easily develop. Learn about them now
so you will catch them if they creep into your mind and can reject
them before they take hold.
Unrealistic Expectations
When they first think about changing to something new, e.g.
adhering to a diet or entering into a relationship, people tend to
become very enthusiastic and set high expectations. But when it’s
time to make the actual effort, they’re rapidly discouraged especially if
the success for which they had initially hoped doesn’t come easily.
Instead of just boosting your expectations, use that initial
excitement to face the risks in the reality of the situation. When
you’re burning to hit up the clubs, recognize that there is a risk of
facing rejection. Use your initial enthusiasm to see this possibility as
just part of a process that leads to success.
This knowledge is an investment in your life. I think attractive
women really prefer a man who knows this stuff forIlong-term
relationships as well as for dating, especially since learning this
material helps to lead to long-term happiness. However, it’s not just
limited to these aspects of life, so incorporating this material into your
psyche will also have a positive effect in many other areas too.
But you have to put in the time to learn this stuff so it becomes

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reflexive. That’s just how humans work. The subconscious really
controls the overwhelming majority of our actions and until you have
buried this stuff deep in there, it’s hard to fulfill your full potential.
Have you ever found yourself doing something over and over
again, and said, “Hey, wait a minute. I want to stop doing this”? Well,
it’s a freaky feeling, but you probably know that.
In my experience, long-term change isn’t what you might call
“easy.” Just like one of those memory foam space pillows which will
return to its original form, we humans tend to go back to the way we
were as soon as the pressure is off.
The Paralysis of Analysis
A common mistake from guys who are trying to improve their
success with women is getting too caught up learning tricks, dialogues,
and other theory to actually put any of it into practical use. The desire
to change their lot with women drives these guys to study dating, but
the study itself