The Art Of Approaching Women[1] | Page 6

can only stay a minute…”

Once you know what Intruders to use, you can enter anyone’s personal
bubble and open them successfully.
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Timing
As with anything else in life, timing is everything. When it comes to
approaching beautiful women, this couldn’t be more true. As a general
rule of thumb, the quicker you can approach someone after first noticing
them, the better.
Some would say to give yourself about three seconds after spotting a
target to choose your Opener and approach. This is a pretty good guideline
to follow, but the reality is, you can approach someone at any time you
please. The reason you want to approach so quickly is that the longer you
take to approach, the more opportunity you have to talk yourself out of
Opening your target, and the stronger the temptation to stay in your
comfort zone becomes.
Eventually, you’re going to want to train yourself to approach
automatically, so that it becomes instinctual to do so as soon as you see
your target. But never use hesitation as an excuse NOT to approach. When
you chicken out because you think “too much time has passed,” you’re
just rationalizing your desire to stay in your safe little comfort zone. Resist
doing this with all your strength!
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Tonality
This is a small, but important thing to be aware of when approaching
women. Tonality refers to the volume, pitch, and tone of your voice. Many
men overlook this when they are talking to people because they are more
focused on what they are going to say rather than how they are saying it.
But if you’re not careful, your tonality can actually drive people away
from you, no matter how engaging your material is.
The first thing you need to be conscious of is the tone of your voice, or
how much it resonates. Women respond well to men with deep tonality,
not only because the pitch is pleasing to their ears, but because a deep tone
represents confidence. In order to achieve this type of tonality, you must
speak from your diaphragm.
A test to see if you are speaking from your diaphragm is to place your
hand flat on your chest, and focus speaking from that area. If you do it
right, you can actually feel your chest vibrate as the words emanate from
there.
Another thing to be aware of is volume. In a way, you must learn to be
LOUD. If you have great things to talk about, but a girl cannot hear you,
he’s going to get frustrated and bored and eventually be distracted by
something that does not require so much effort on their part to pay
attention to. So don’t be afraid to be loud when approaching someone.
High volume can convey a sense of excitement and confidence, and when
you combine it with good tonality, you are projecting all the right signals
to portray yourself as a fun, outgoing, and engaging person.
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Body Language
Words are not the only thing we use to communicate with others. The way
we carry ourselves says a lot about us. If we have bad body language, then
no matter what we say, we could be perceived as weak or unconfident,
two major turn offs for women.
So Body Language is something to keep in mind when you are
approaching women. There are two distinct periods in the approach where
you need to be aware of how you are presenting yourself:
• The Walk-Up
• The Conversation

The Walk-Up is the period of time where you are physically approaching
your target, or “walking up to them.” Most guys will approach their target
dead on, making for them in a straight line, with little regard for how
aggressive it may look. And while this is a minor point, it can cause your
target’s defenses to go up, so why make your job any harder? Instead,
when you initially walk up to your target, do so at an angle, not dead on.
This is much less aggressive and more under the radar. Be sure not to face
them squarely, since that is rather confrontational. Instead, turn your body
to them slightly to “soften” your approach. Just subtly pointing your
shoulder at your target will do the trick.
The Conversation is the period of time when you actually start talking to
your target. Now that you’ve opened them, you need to appear cool,
relaxed, and slightly disassociated. This can be accomplished by putting
your weight on your back foot. Keep your shoulders back, your chest
slightly out, and your feet shoulder length apart. And most importantly –