David DeAngelo - Double Your Dating - Sexual Communication Workbook | Page 6

concepts is to project the right
message SUBTLY instead of explicitly and directly.
Don't treat these ideas as techniques. They're just elements you didn't know
about the boy meets girl story; until now. As you use them, they'll become more
and more comfortable and natural to you. They keep it interesting for HER.... and
the proof is that she'll stick around.
Now, not all of these concepts are going to make sense at first, so
remember, the more you use them, the more sense they'll make!
Attitudes
Combining these creates a cocky, indiff erent, aloof air to your personality:
• There is no downside.
• I'm indifferent to the outcome.
• I'm a catch, and time with me is rare and valuable. She's getting the
better end of the deal.
• She wants me, but I'm going to tease her to see how much.
• She's going to have to prove hersel f as above-average, even though I
suspect that she is above average.
Strategies
Steal her frame. Attractive women ar e GREAT at making men attracted to
them. They know how to make men uncomf ortable, how to be cold, how to tease
and manipulate in a way that drives us guys CRAZY.
Well, do the same with them. Women will ACT like they're upset, but they'll
love you if you can steal their frame. If you can steal a woman's frame and her
lines, she'll often start acting like a confused, frustrated guy who doesn't know
what else to say... it's hilarious!
Here are some strategies:
Be a challenge, play hard to get, etc. Talk to her for a few minutes, then walk
away, etc.
Make her want what you have. Give a little, tease with it, but don't make it
easy to get.
Be mysterious (for instance, never answering questions about work,
education, etc.)

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Techniques

1. Never give a woman a direct answer, unless it's no.
2. Answer questions with questions that implicate her or get her to
commit to something.
3. If she complains or doesn't like some thing, turn it up and give it back.
4. Never give a woman exactly what she asks for.
5. Always send mixed signals.
6. Use "Let's be friends."
7. Be unpredictable. Keep mixing it up and changing your patterns.
8. Be distinctive/Don't be boring.
9. Send mixed messages.
10. Take two steps forward, then one step back
11. Never let the line go slack-always keep some tension 12. It's like playing
poker, always raise and call her bluff
13. When you're in a Cocky & Funny 'role' that works, stick with it! 14. Lead
and move forward confidently!
15. Never act apologetic, insecure, try to get approval, or like you're trying
to impress.
16. Don't be a WUSSY.
Masculinity Exercises
1. Take this list of techniques and come up with a way you can use each one
immediately, and start using them.
2. Make a list of 5 masculine traits you'd like to develop. Then list 3 ways you
can start working IMMEDIATELY to enhance these areas. Important areas to focus
on include:
• Confident posture (lift chest) and slow deliberate gestures, eliminate
nervous ticks, etc.
• Dealing with your insecurities so you communicate confidently
• Taking charge of situations and making decisions
• Not accepting 2nd class behavior or treatment from others
• Being picky about what's go od enough for your life
3. Write down 10 clear memories of being tested by a woman, and think
again about how much power she really had over you. Then write down how you'd
deal with the situation differently next time.
The more you review and use these concepts, the better you'll become at
using them, and the more Sexual Tension and ATTRACTION you'll create.

SECTION 3: Sparking & Building
"...What is a bad boy? He's a rebel without a cause, a cool dude in a
motorcycle jacket, a real-life Huckleberry Finn who wants to take you on a wild
river ride to adventure. He's wounded , moody, misunderstood-a dreamer, a
seducer, a daredevil. He is a man of myster y and a fascinating paradox. He's both a
lost little boy and a man with a dark side. He breaks your heart with his wicked
ways, but whether he's a wanton wolf or a dangerous desperado, he makes you
long to rescue him from his pain. He's hurtful cruel, or simply careless and self-
absorbed, but you can't resist jumping on his motorcycle and roaring off into the
steamy night with him. And once you've gi ven him your heart forever... he's gone
with the wind! He is someone who sets off throbbing sexual and aggressive
passions within you. Because