Dating and Falling in Love

Dating
&
Falling in Love



By
Scott & Shannon Peck
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Dating
&
Falling in Love

By Scott & Shannon Peck


Note: This eBook is a heart-to-heart conversation
with Scott & Shannon Peck. It is a transcript of 1 of
12 love subjects on their 8-hour audio tape course,
All the Love You could Ever Want!


SCOTT: Welcome to all the love you could
ever want! Our subject is Dating and Falling
in Love. We're going to discuss the different
stages that take place in dating and falling in
love. The first stage is: preparing to meet the
lovemate of your dreams.

Shannon, what are your thoughts on the
biggest problems people have, even before
they meet a lovemate?

SHANNON: I think one of the biggest
mistakes is starting from a sense of
desperation. And we’re all familiar with that
inner dialogue. It says, “I'm running out of
time, and I'm not getting any younger. I've got
to find the lovemate of my dreams and soon!”
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We need not to be desperate.

SCOTT: What can we do?

SHANNON: I think we need a mindset to
offset the desperation, the mindset of
wholeness. And in our book, "Liberating
Your Magnificence," we have an entire
chapter on this. It's really helpful. What we
need to do is take the stand that our desire to
love and be loved is a legitimate desire. This
is not fluff, this is our life. Experiencing all
the love you could ever want is something
that you already deserve. You don't have to
qualify for it, you're already pre-qualified.

SCOTT: It's so valuable to keep reminding
ourselves, this is our spiritual right to be
loved. And so, that's really part of our
wholeness, just to have that image of
ourselves.

SHANNON: It certainly is. It is also to know
that you already include this relationship.
This is major. You may ask, “But how can
this be when I haven’t even met my love
mate?”

We begin with the spiritual fact that
precludes the meeting of your lovemate. The
spiritual fact is that if it’s a right idea, then
you include it. Why? Because you include
everything that God, which is divine Love,
includes. Love includes itself. This is the
description of who you truly are as well. You,
as Love’s expression, include all of love. Isn’t
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that wonderful? This is a spiritual law you
can turn to for finding the love mate of your
dreams.

SCOTT: Also, in preparing to move forward
to meet the lovemate of your dreams, it's so
critical to remember, keep love as the focus,
rather than the lovemate. The point is, we're
going deeper into love itself, and it is
primarily love that you want. And so, we're
really first saying, "Let's fall in love with love.
This is the love that you deserve even before
you even meet your lovemate."

SHANNON: This is such a key issue, Scott.
And this issue of focusing on love and not the
lovemate not only takes the heat off, but it
gets us in the direction of where we most
need to focus .

SCOTT: Somebody might be saying, "Well,
wait a second. I really want a lovemate, and
turning to Love just takes me off course from
finding my true mate."
No, that actually puts you right on course
because getting deeper into Love is moving
you closer to the real lovemate that you
deserve.

Shannon, how do we open ourselves to
meeting the lovemate of our dreams?

SHANNON: Well that’s a good question
because opening up means danger. It means
that we might be rejected. We might fall flat
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on our face and lose out once again. And
“Will it be worth the risk?” We ask ourselves.
Think of yourself as an explorer during this
time. You need courage to explore the
unknown. There may be many relationships
that you'll be discovering and things you'll be
learning about yourself and ways that you're
interacting which is all part of your personal
growth in love on your adventure.

SCOTT: I've certainly learned a lot about that
myself in my life. You know, sometimes we're
rejected in love. And we think there's
somebody we're attracted to and they're not
attracted to us, and it's so valuable just to be
able to say, "Then I'm going to move on," and
not take it personally. Just